A gaycation (gay + vacation) is essentially any travel where gay considerations come into play. This can mean anything from choosing to stay at a gay (or gay-friendly) hotel, going to gay events (circuit parties, theme nights at clubs etc.) or in my case, going to a gay ski week. The one in Queenstown, New Zealand to be precise. My partner and I making the short trip over the pond, along with two friends (a lesbian couple) for a week long adventure in the slopes beginning at the end of August.
For some reason, I’ve shied away from gaycations in the past. But it was during our holiday in Thailand last year that I realised for the first time, the value they have. We were staying in a beautiful resort in Phuket. Everything about the place was amazing. The room, the view, the location, the food, the staff…it was all five star and blow-your-mind amazing. I really enjoyed my time there.
The only issue was that my partner and I felt like the only gays at the resort. I guess because we were. It wasn’t a huge issue, but it was noticeable. The funny thing is neither my partner or I are into huge PDAs (public display of affection), but it was just strange watching a lot of straight couples doing simple things like frolicking in the pool, or rubbing sun tan lotion on each other, and feeling like if we did any of those things, it would draw attention. We’re private, laid-back guys so attention seeking isn’t really our thing.
This is what got me thinking about a gaycation. Imagine going away on a holiday and we’re not the only gays around!
We’ve been to New Zealand before and absolutely loved it. When I heard about Gay Ski Week in Queenstown just after we got back from Thailand, I took it as a sign. I raised the topic with my partner, and he was keen to go! We wrangled a couple of friends to come as well, which will make it even more fun!
I’m genuinely feeling excited and am looking forward to it. I don’t really know what to expect. Part of me is worried that anything that involves gay guys will involve sex. Since we’re happily monogamous, this doesn’t interest us. I don’t mind what other people do, I just hope it’s not the only thing that everyone else is doing. Which in all honesty, I doubt that it will be. It’s just that hey, you never know, right?
This whole idea of pre-judging the gay scene is something I want to work on, and maybe taking this gaycation, is my way of doing it. If I constantly block myself from having ‘gay experiences’ based on preconceived ideas I have, aren’t I the one missing out? Even if I’m 90% right, that means there’s still 10% left to explore that isn’t the thing that I fear/misjudge.
I really hope to have a great time with my partner and friends. I’m excited to go on a holiday where us being gay and together, won’t even be the slightest issue. I’m also excited to meet lots of other guys (and gals!) from Australia, New Zealand and all over the world. It’d be great to make some new friendships, while we’re making some new memories!