One of the strongest memories I have of turning 30, is of my mother leaning in to me to give me a kiss as she handed me my birthday present. Knowing her as I do, I was expecting her to whisper something lovely and heartfelt into my ear. Her exact words? “Blink and before you know it, you’ll be 40.”
It’s something that you may have come across when viewing someone’s profile on a gay hook up site. Two small words that pack a big punch – ‘No Asians’. This article isn’t about whether such a statement is merely expressing a legitimate preference, or constitutes blatant rudeness or even racism. Instead, this article looks into the underlying stereotypes that exist when it comes to gay Asian men and how we’re all affected by this.
My dad was a conservative, strict and old-fashioned guy. Which is why it’s kind of surprising that I learnt one of the most valuable skin care habits from him. Every morning and every evening, he insisted my sister and I clean our faces (with water, no soap) and put on a moisturiser (we didn’t have a lot of money growing up, so it wasn’t anything fancy).
If you’re not endowed with porn star length in the penis department, don’t despair. You’re not alone. Pretty much the only guys that have porn star penises are porn stars. For the rest of us, we need to learn to love the penises we have.
Getting older…and happier. These four words are not a mistake or misprint, dear reader. They are in fact, a reflection of something that is actually possible.
The gay community is often associated with the gay scene. The gay scene is often (unfortunately) associated with somewhat superficial things such as parties, nightclubs and nightlife. So it’s nice to find a gay space that offers something for the soul. Easton Mountain is that place.
Dear Men’s Health,
I’m a long-term, loyal subscriber. I love your magazine. As a guy in my 30s, it’s a great source of information (that I can actually try and apply in my own life), as well as inspiration.
These are exciting, and increasingly progressive, times for the LGBTI community. Gay rights are now firmly planted in the mainstream political discourse. Broad public support for marriage equality is at an all-time high. Debates about complex issues such as HIV/AIDS treatments and transgender teens are becoming more mature and complex.
As a gay man, HIV/AIDS is an issue that has not directly affected my life or me personally. I’m HIV- and so is my partner. I don’t know many other gay guys. The handful (literally) of gay male friends that I do have, are all HIV-. So as an issue, HIV/AIDS has not left any marks or memories on my life.
There are many ways people and businesses can show support for the LGBT community. One organisation, Equality Funds, is showing their commitment to diversity and LGBT equality by putting their money where their mouth is – literally.
Our relationship to needing to know is an interesting one. There are some people (a minority) who are OK with not knowing. Then there are others (an even smaller minority) who don’t need to know. But for the majority of us, not knowing equates to fear, and it’s something we prefer to avoid.
Homophobia has many forms. It can be violence, physical intimidation, discrimination and unequal treatment. It can also come in the form of words. Words that as members of the LGBTI community, we’re unfortunately all too familiar with. Even as society moves towards a growing, genuine acceptance of the LGBTI community, language remains a battleground.
I love the concept of one-for-one giving. Basically, it means that if an organisation is selling let’s say shoes, for every pair of shoes that it sells, another pair is donated to a community in need. A lot of companies are going down this path, including HERO – a company that sells….of all things, condoms!
The Little Gay Blog recently turned 1 year old. It’s an achievement that I’m very proud of, as it does take quite a lot of time and effort to keep writing consistently and producing (hopefully) high quality articles.
For the first time in my life, I actually feel good about the way I look. And guess what? I don’t have washboard abs. My biceps aren’t bulging to escape from my shirt sleeves. And I’ll probably never be a gay magazine cover model.
There’s one topic that seems to be overlooked in the current discussion about marriage equality. Improvement.
The plans have been made. Plane tickets are booked. So is the hotel. The friends are rearing to go. So now the countdown to my very first gaycation begins!
Whether you’re looking for a lifetime of love, or just a night of lust, hook up apps might actually be holding you back.
Trying to get life insurance after being diagnosed with HIV or diabetes has up until now, been extremely difficult, if not impossible to do. Thankfully, a new Australian service has recently been launched that readily provides life insurance to people living with well managed HIV and diabetes.
Humans create labels to understand things. One label can lead to another. In this way, you can go from human to male to gay. But gay isn’t always the end of the label line. The labels can continue. We’ve created labels such as butch, fem, bear and twink, top and bottom. But where do you fit in if none of the labels apply to you?
Screw the youth obsessed culture we live in. Even if I could, I wouldn’t want to go back in time and and re-live my 20s all over again. The 30s are where it’s at, baby!
Are you a yo-yo gym rat? You go hard for short periods of time, but then find a mountain of excuses (work, social life, new partner) to allow months to elapse between gym visits? I was just the same – until I made a few changes!
It’s oh so easy to lament the decline of the gay scene in recent years. But regardless of whether the scene is in decline or not, my question to you is – when you do venture out and about, are you approachable?
America’s most well known gay activist and advice columnist, Dan Savage recently visited Australia. He undoubtedly blew a few minds (mine included!) with a compelling communication style and razor sharp intellect. When he spoke, he was heard. And that is precisely why Australia needs a Dan Savage.
Breaking up has changed. Back in the old days (you know, like ’06), breaking up meant pretty much never having to see or hear from each other ever again. As a general rule, that worked well. After all, they’ve become you’re ex for a reason. Break ups were hard, but you moved on.